How to Tell Your Friend You Are Gay or Lesbian and Like Them Without Them Freaking Out
Timing.Seriously. Blurting it out right after they've had a bad day isnotthe best thing to do, but neither is putting it off until another day ... and another day ... and another day ... Choose a moment when you all have a little time to spend to talk it out, and approach the issue seriously - don't just open your mouth and blab.
Privacy.Another important point. Telling a friend in front of a bunch of other people isn't clever. Find somewhere private, just you two.
Sit down and explain it calmly.Ask him or her to hear you out before any comments are made.
Listen to your friend.After all, thisisyour friend we're discussing, so don't forget to listen. Your friend might have had some suspicions, or might be freaked out. Whatever the reaction is, remember that you have had the chance to say your piece. Now it's your turn to let your friend respond to what you've said. Even if the reaction is bad at first, listen calmly and allow your friend to say what's on his or her mind without interruption.
Give them space.It may be a big shock for your friends, so give them space. Allow a day or two to pass, then approach them again, and ask (calmly, as usual) if they've had time to think, and whether you can talk some more about it.
Accept the fact that it may take time, or may not end well.Your friends are your age, and if you've realized you're gay at a young age (pre-18), your friends may have some trouble coming to grips with it at first. Some may not get over their initial negative reaction for quite a while. Continue to be nice, friendly and open - don't be whiny, overly insistent, or creepy - don't stalk them constantly. If your friends have some trouble accepting you right away, just leave them be. If they don't come around, at least you know the truth about them - they were friends as long as it was easy and at the first sign of any difference between you, they bailed out. That's okay. Find new friends.
QuestionI'm in middle school, and I like my friend. How would I go about telling him?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerStart by talking about LGBTQ+ issues with your friend to see his response. If he reacts favorably toward the subject, tell him that you want to talk with him about something serious, and let him know. If not, you may want to keep it from him.Thanks!
QuestionWhat if I think my friend is against gay/lesbian/bi people?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerBefore you tell her, sit down and ask him how she feels about homosexuality.Thanks!
QuestionMy friend told me that she is lesbian but I don't know how to tell her I'm bi because I don't really want her to like me too much, I like boys too. What do I do?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerJust tell her that you are bi, she'll understand what that means. If you want to make sure she doesn't take it the wrong way, just say something like, "I just wanted to be honest with you about that, I'm not trying to tell you I have romantic feelings for you. I like our friendship just how it is."Thanks!
QuestionHow can I tell my friend that I am interested in him when we are hanging out?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerWhen you are hanging out alone together, you can start with something that you like to do together as an ice breaker. That will put you both into a mood where you can have a conversation and It will be less scary than if you just blurted it out randomly.Thanks!
QuestionWill it get better if I tell my friend?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerTime may clear up any bad feelings telling your friend may produce, and he may even be okay with it.Thanks!
QuestionWhat if my friends have a problem with gay people? I'm only in elementary school and many people have problems with homosexuality.wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerDon't always be quick to judge about that because the friends who stay with you and guide you are the ones who will stay by your side and are true friends.Thanks!
QuestionI told my friend and they keep asking me how I know and I don't know what to say other than I just know. Do you have any advice?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerRelax. Just help them understand by exaplining that it's the same way they know that they like male/female or both. It's who you are, there's no explanation. Make that clear.Thanks!
QuestionWhat do I do if I'm a lesbian in a country where homosexuality is not accepted?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerI don't think it's safe to tell people you're a lesbian, I'm sorry. You need to be safe from all the hate. When you're old enough, come to a place where homosexuality is accepted. You could be in danger if you come out where you are right now.Thanks!
QuestionI like my friend a lot but she doesn't like gay people. How do I tell her?Marvel Fandom GirlCommunity AnswerYou should tell her in the most direct way possible. If she doesn't accept you, she does’t deserve to be around you and she is probably not your friend after all.Thanks!
QuestionHow can I come out to a straight friend that I have a crush on?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerTell them that you're gay but leave the "crush for him" part out. One lot of information at a time...Thanks!
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- Don't worry! It's not a disease or anything. Just breathe calmly and explain yourself.
- Telling your friend you're gay, does not mean they have to be angry with you or hate you. In fact, you're the true friend who told them the truth and if they don't accept it and bail out, then they were the fake friends, because it doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is, but you're still who you are. And if they don't accept it, and you know you were honest and a true friend, find other real friends. The world is a huge place to find people with the same interests!
- Don't get angry. Understand that your friends may believe you could decide to change your orientation. Explain to them that we are who we are and being gay is part of that. Remind them that you have (probably) struggled with the realization, and may even have tried to resist or deny the fact that you're gay. But now that you've accepted yourself as gay, you realize that there never really was a choice for you, and that nothing can change that.
- Be confident and at ease. If you accept yourself the way you are and act cool about it, it will be a lot easier for others to accept.
- Make it seem like you don't care if they ditch you for it even if you do.
- Do you keep running away from the conversation? If you announce (telephone, e-mail) that you plan on telling them something important, the first step is taken. Your friend is likely to ask "what that important thing you wanted to tell" was. Taking both of these steps separately is less scary.
- Although you need to keep positive thoughts in mind, realize that this may not go over well with everyone.
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