Why does a child bite hard?
Almost all young children, as soon as they have small teeth, begin to try them for strength, look for an application such a curiosity, still, because the little crumbs are all interesting!
If you turn to specialized literature, you can find out that this is absolutely normal phenomenon, so the kid tries to express his curiosity, curiosity, and sometimes even a certain number of emotions! All this, of course, is good and correct, but it is impossible to do this behavior by the norm, because it will entail a lot of problems that will result in difficulties of the child's interaction with the surrounding world.
So, you are faced with this problem. How to disaccustom a child to bite? How can one explain to a small nesbvyshyshu that it is wrong, without violating the already fragile and fragile child's psyche? How to explain to a child that biting an apple is right, but you cannot bite a mother or brother?
What if all the persuasions and explanations do not help, the kid persistently repeats his actions, by all means, pestering parents and all those around him?
Some parents are of the opinion that it is better to suffer, to hold back the cry of pain that breaks out after the next bite of the child, hoping that he will simply outgrow this habit and such an unpleasant difficulty just to dissolve. After all, will not he bite all the way to school?
Of course, it will not, but, unfortunately, if the problem is not solved from its very foundation, then it can lead to more serious consequences, which are not so easy to handle. The kid, who constantly bites, doesn’t want to see much on a visit or on birthdays, when he tries to adapt in kindergarten, he may also have difficulties, because who wants to be friends with a rodent?
Educators to your favorite crumbs are beginning to find fault and pour remarks, parents suspiciously squint in your direction, and sometimes even show their discontent in an open form. You habitually protect your child, explaining that he is still small, unintelligent and little that understands. But in such moments, unwittingly, parents aggravate the problem, depriving the child of the opportunity to learn how to properly express their emotions and feelings.
Why does a child bite and how to cope with it?
The reasons why a child can bite are many, for the most part, they vary depending on the age and inner world of the crumbs. For the first time, he tried the force of pressure of the gums of the gum even then, when he took the mother's breast, because, in order to suck milk, it is necessary to make some effort.
Further, at the age of 5 to 7 months, when the first teeth begin to appear, the child satisfies his curiosity by biting his mother by the chest while nursing. Often, beginning at this age and ending at the age of 14 months, children can bite from the severe pain that they have in the process of teething.
Weaning to bite a child at that age is quite simple: it’s enough for mom to show that she really hurts the next time the baby tries to try again. If you do not do it already when the first bells are received, you risk acquiring a small rodent.
If you make it clear that you don’t like it, and the baby still continues to bite, you should take the breast from him, showing that if he bites, he will lose not only milk and mother’s breast, but also your attention.Usually, even the smallest babies quickly build a causal relationship and are quickly disaccustomed to biting.
We are older, and the problems are the same
Sometimes it happens that a child, having learned to bite in deep childhood, no longer remembers such a habit. But, unfortunately, it often happens in a completely different way: an older child, from the age of 1.5 years to 3 years old, starts to bite hard, and most of the relatives or children who were at that moment were under the distribution.
It is surprising that there are no obvious reasons for such actions, but the child simply takes it and, quite unexpectedly for others, takes it, and bites someone. Why is this happening and what should parents do at such a moment?
The cause of this behavior may be elementary boredom and lack of attention from relatives and friends, the crumb just does not know how else to express his feelings, most likely, he does not just lack the vocabulary for this.
That is why the most important advice to parents from a psychologist is the following: often hug and kiss your child, do not forget to praise and communicate with him, despite the fact that it is still small and, perhaps, in your opinion, there is little that it understands.Believe me, children, no matter what age they are, they all feel and understand very well.
If a child’s attempts to bite repeatedly occur, then it’s definitely impossible to lower: indicate in a strict voice that you don’t like the behavior, you don’t have to shout, just bring your thoughts and leave the room where the baby was.
Children very quickly compare the incident with the bite and the further disappearance of the mother, after which they quickly disaccustom themselves to such a habit. If your crumb still bites hard, try to express your dissatisfaction with emotions, for example, shout loudly: "Ay, it hurts!".
Such a measure is very effective for sensitive children who know how to empathize. Show how much you are upset, perhaps one time will not be enough, do not back down and do not change the tactics of their behavior in such cases.
But, what should parents do if this behavior does not help? In many forums, you can hear the following advice: try to bite the baby in response, they say, he will understand how unpleasant it is that any force will have even greater strength and will cease to do so.
Unfortunately, the effect, more often than not, is exactly the opposite: children tend to repeat after their parents, and therefore, more often than ever, they will bite, repeating after mom or dad.It would be more prudent not to be like your own child, but to show compassion and sympathy to the victim.
Hug and kiss the person your child hurt. Such an unexpected reaction will make a small rodent think, and perhaps the next time he will not allow such behavior.
Sometimes it also happens that the child is very excited, tired or simply unable to control his own emotions, unfortunately, this is quite a common phenomenon for the child's psyche. If the child, for no reason at all, just picked up and bitten in the process of playing some other child, and this situation is completely non-standard for him, then here it may not be necessary to scold and punish him.
Calmly explain to your child that it is impossible to do so and gradually withdraw from the game, take them home and try to calm them down. Try to do this so that the baby does not take your care as a punishment, rather, as a measure of necessity, because everyone needs to rest.